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Gay and Happy coverGay and Happy is a guide that aims to amuse, inform and advise you, whether you are about to bust out of the closet or have already experienced the highs and lows of guy-on-guy love.

Coming out, the gay scene, dating, relationships, health and sex are all discussed, in a frank and adult manner. The texts have been written with an international readership in mind. Browse here.

You’ll also find lists of books, movies, television series and a list with websites for easy reference.

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A print version of Gay & Happy is still available, but please note that the book has not recently been updated, unlike the text on this site.

The printed color version of Gay and Happy (ISBN: 9789081618434) is available through Ingram, a major international distributor. And it is available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

The B&W print version of Gay and Happy (ISBN: 9789081618403) is available through bookstores in the U.S. that have an Espresso Book Machine and in the Netherlands through through The American Book Center (which offers international shipping). Other worldwide EBM locations can print it for you too.

Steven van Lijnden wrote Gay & Happy, Peter Welleman made the sexplicit illustrations within. Please support this site, the author and the illustrator by not pirating the book. 

Reviewers about the Dutch version of Gay and Happy:

‎”In the past decennia there have been various attempts to explain gay life to those who are new to our subculture and, it has to be said, Van Lijndens is the best I have seen so far. With its 250 pages this ‘guide for the modern gay man’ is pretty hefty and complete.” (Review by ZiZo magazine, Sept/Oct)

“When reading Gay and Happy, experienced gay men will recognize a lot of their own issues as well as the issues of others. Inexperienced guys will pick it up easily and eagerly to remind themselves about the do’s and don’ts of gay happiness (…)” (Review by Ihlia, the International Gay/Lesbian Information Center and Archive)

“Finally a stimulating book with tips for gay men, serious as well as fun.” (Dennis Boutkan, chairman COC Amsterdam)

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