Welcome!

Gay and Happy coverGay and Happy is a guide that aims to amuse, inform and advise you, whether you are about to bust out of the closet or have already experienced the highs and lows of guy-on-guy love.

Coming out, the gay scene, dating, relationships, health and sex are all discussed, in a frank and adult manner. The book has been written with an international readership in mind.

In the back, you’ll find lists of books, movies, television series and a list with resources for easy reference. This title also contains over thirty illustrations. Please note that some of these – and the text – are sexually explicit.

The printed color version of Gay and Happy (ISBN: 9789081618434) is available through Ingram, a major international distributor. And it is available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Most bookstores should be able to order a copy for you, just ask. Prices may vary depending on your location.

The B&W print version of Gay and Happy (ISBN: 9789081618403) is available through bookstores in the U.S. that have an Espresso Book Machine and in the Netherlands through LGBTQ bookstore Vrolijk and through The American Book Center (which offers international shipping). Other worldwide EBM locations can print it for you too.

The Gay and Happy eBook is available worldwide in various digital formats through the iBookstore, the Kobo store, through Barnes & Noble, through Smashwords and through Amazon. (ISBN: 9789081618427 /ASIN: B00CXEFWKO)

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Steven van Lijnden wrote Gay & Happy, Peter Welleman made the sexplicit illustrations within. Please support this site, the author and the illustrator by not pirating the book. The proceeds are needed to update the book and the site, and for future projects. For sample PDF chapters of the book, click here.

Reviewers about the Dutch version of Gay and Happy:

‎”In the past decennia there have been various attempts to explain gay life to those who are new to our subculture and, it has to be said, Van Lijndens is the best I have seen so far. With its 250 pages this ‘guide for the modern gay man’ is pretty hefty and complete.” (Review by ZiZo magazine, Sept/Oct)

“When reading Gay and Happy, experienced gay men will recognize a lot of their own issues as well as the issues of others. Inexperienced guys will pick it up easily and eagerly to remind themselves about the do’s and don’ts of gay happiness (…)” (Review by Ihlia, the International Gay/Lesbian Information Center and Archive)

“Finally a stimulating book with tips for gay men, serious as well as fun.” (Dennis Boutkan, chairman COC Amsterdam)

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